30 Things About Me
I am happy and excited that my little business is growing! I decided I would share a little about myself with you all. I found a questionnaire on this blog and and tweaked it a bit. I hope you enjoy!
Name // Paige Tillie, Tillie is after one of paternal great grandmother's.
Age // 29
Zodiac Sign // Gemini - I grew up with my mother and sister also being Gemini's... it was wild at times!
Nationality // According to Ancestry, I am 23% Eastern European (Polish, Yugoslavian/Czechoslovakian), 22% Great Britain, 18% Scandinavian, 15% Western European (German), 12% Southern European (Italian/Greek), 6% Finland/NW Russian, and 4% Irish. Many of these are a big surprise to me! Genealogy fascinates me by the way! I was either going to be a nurse or history major!
Fears // Driving over bridges close to the water, losing my children and husband
Favorite Holiday // Christmas, I love getting the house decorated and the way it makes me feel. It makes me remember Christmas' when I was a kid. Playing music, tricking my dad into eating a warhead every year. Going to church in my new dress. Waking up to find Santa's presents. I want to let my children experience these magical moments.
A confession // I am always in my head, I overthink everything. Thankfully I have Jared to be my sounding board.
Things that annoys me // Loud eaters, it literally makes me cringe. I think I have mysophonia
Favorite animal // Horse for sure, I used to have one I named Bingo. They are the most gentle creatures. You have to take time and gain their trust. I always wanted a farm to have my own one day.
Pets // We have two cats, Molly and Max. They were our first babies. With the cat hair though, I will never own another indoor animal.
An embarrassing moment // I am really good at sticking my foot in my mouth. With age I am getting better ha... I was getting a massage for the first time in a few years. I forgot if I was supposed to get completely undressed. I went to ask and as I was opening the door, the massage therapist was on the other side opening the door. She literally jumped three feet in the air and was clenching her chest. It was horrible and I couldn't relax during the whole massage! HA
Favorite store // ELEGANT MOMMY of course. Check them out. They have everything a pregnant woman/mom could need. I once went through every room in my house, my garage and both vehicles. I have something in every room!
Something I fantasize about // Sleeping all night long, sleeping in in the morning... ahh to be 24 again. I work evenings and get home a little before midnight. With kids up at night and being up early in the morning I am learning to be a functioning zombie.
Where I work // I am a Board Certified Psychiatric Registered Nurse. I work part time at an inpatient Behavioral Health Center and I teach Birth Boot Camp childbirth classes.
Favorite band // Matchbox Twenty, Jewel, Brooks and Dunn
Favorite food // My favorite food of all time is called petahe, also known as three corners, cheese buttons, pyrohy. They are Ukrainian, my mother in law's specialty. Basically they are a noodle dough, filled with a cottage cheese mixture. They are boiled then covered with fried onions in butter and sour cream.
This is a Christmas eve tradition with my husbands family. We just made them last night because we were craving them!
This is followed close by Crave's Tropical Poke Bowl... it is literally amazing!
Favorite drink // Diet pepsi... yes I know it's not good to drink. I am trying to end my obsession.
Favorite book // Still Alice by Lisa Genova
Favorite Movie // The Life of David Gale, Zootopia
Favorite TV shows // Parenthood, This is Us, Law and Order: SVU
Things I find attractive // Being genuine, hardworking, sense of humor
My idea of a perfect date // Dinner followed by the Johnny Holm Band! We were able to have this date a few months ago and it was so much fun.
How many siblings do I have // I have two older sisters, an older brother and a little sister.
Something I am talented at // I am really good at crocheting. I have been working on things for probably 15 years. I can make almost anything with yarn.
Things I love // My family, summer nights, vacations, smores, belly laughs from my kids, the smell of my husband's cologne, finishing a good book, finishing a crochet piece
Number of kids I want // Well before kids I said 4-5... now that I have two and don't get sleep I am thinking 3 eventually... Every day we change our minds. Check up with us in 5 years!
Can I cook // Yes! I love to cook and bake. I wish I had a person devoted to cleaning up my mess though!
Favorite Color // Well since my house, our truck (and all my past vehicles), our recliner, washer and drier are all red... I say red :) Thanks grandma
Turn offs // Bad drivers, being self-centered, narcissism
How I feel right now // Tired... both kids have a cold, M is teething which equates to very little sleep. I try to remember my mantra that gets me through the hard times, "This is only a phase."
Someone I miss // My dad, he died ten years ago. For my sisters 21st birthday my mom and I made her a bracelet that has my dads handwriting on it. They surprised me with one as well! I love having a piece of him with me. Check out Say Anything Jewelry.
That is enough about me. I would love to hear from you! If this reaches you, please comment below! Tell me something that makes you unique.
Also, if you were stranded on a desert island for one year and could take two things with you, what would they be?
Paige lives in South Dakota with her husband and two toddlers. She is a registered nurse and Birth Boot Camp instructor.
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How I Got Here
Well I never thought I would be here. The journey that brought Jared and I to Sioux Falls was filled with the unknown. The oil fields of North Dakota were blowing up. Crime was on a rise and house prices (along with everything else) were so inflated. We were in a 100 year old house and wanted to upgrade. We didn’t want to be in a reverse mortgage once the oil left. Jared decided that it was smart to sell and move. I wasn’t sure it was the right decision but trusted in God that my husband was making the best decision for me.
Being in Sioux Falls for one month (four years prior) when my dad passed away was long enough for Jared to decide he liked it. I did have a brother and sister here so we wouldn’t be without anyone we knew, but it still was eight hours from home. It was spontaneous to say the least. We packed up everything we owned into an enclosed car trailer and hit the road. I didn’t sleep a wink the night before we left.
Well fast forward two years, we were in Sioux Falls, we were happy. I had a job I loved working with the adult behavioral health population and Jared was working for a metal manufacturing shop. We had built a beautiful house and were ready to start a family. We took a trip to Mexico for a friend’s wedding thinking it would be our last hoorah! Month after month, we kept getting negative pregnancy tests.
Being a nurse, I spent every waking moment researching how to get pregnant. I was consumed. I came to learn I wasn’t ovulating at all. My physician didn’t have any answers for me. She tested my hormone levels and nothing obvious was wrong. We decided to try Clomid. For four months we tried this, I supposedly ovulated twice but my levels were still low. The next two months I didn’t ovulate at all. I was becoming a mess. I couldn’t think about anything else. I always wanted to be a mother and couldn’t imagine my life without children.
We were referred to a fertility specialist. The first appointment was over $400, nothing covered by insurance. We were told from then on every intervention would be $2000-$10,000, nothing covered by insurance. My mind started spinning. We maybe would have to sell our house, our vehicles… I decided to take a step back. I cancelled that first appointment. We were still so young, I had time. I didn’t need to rush things.
That is when a coworker started talking to me about a local Chiropractor, Dr. Pulse. She told me that she and her husband struggled and once they started seeing her, they soon got pregnant. She told me even if it didn’t work that Dr. Pulse was amazing and emotionally supportive. I was willing to try anything, I made an appointment. I started seeing her twice a week. She had me taking all sorts of supplements, taking basal body temperatures and getting regular adjustments. She kept referring to my future child, saying things like “When baby is here I want to be doing adjustments right away.” I thought, who is this lady, she doesn’t know me!? She acted like she can fix my problems right away. I didn’t buy in right away. By the end of my first month I was feeling more comfortable with her. I had an appointment one morning and I was three days late. I decided to test even though I didn’t want to see another negative. IT WAS POSITIVE?!?
I couldn’t believe my eyes. It was only one month after I started seeing her. I went in to her office early, and told her she was a miracle worker! She happily proclaimed she was helping 4-5 women get pregnant every month!
Since I now believed everything this woman said, I agreed to take her recommendation and see her favorite midwife Teri. I hadn’t thought of using one before this. Well I fell in love with the Avera midwives just as quickly as I did with Dr. Pulse! Before being pregnant, I spent so long feeling broken. I now felt so healthy and happy. Everything was going great in my pregnancy.
Even though I felt great, I didn’t know what my birth would be like and couldn’t even imagine it. It scared me to think about it to be honest. My mother had three natural labors, I thought if she can do it so can I. The only thing I knew for sure was that I didn’t want an epidural. Seeing that needle in nursing school was enough to tell me that.
I asked the midwives about education classes we could take. They referred me to a local teacher who taught natural childbirth classes. Jared couldn’t get past the amount of money it would cost us, I too didn’t know if it would be worth it but I needed to be educated. After the first class we knew it was what we needed. Week by week we were starting to understand why natural birth was important. We became believers. I found a confidence in myself and Jared started really supporting my decisions and being a more active part in my pregnancy.
That is where our wonderful doula came in, Heidi. Up to that point I honestly had no idea what a doula even was. In class we started talking about them and learning there were many in the area. A classmate said “They are worth a million dollars.” That statement really got us thinking. I started doing some research and reached out to a few local doulas. They all responded but Heidi got my attention with the detail of her emails. We met up and after that meeting Jared and I decided to make the investment.
Everything about our labor and delivery experience went exactly how we had hoped. We felt supported and uplifted. Heidi was there every step of the way, helping me ride out every contraction. She was there for Jared and helped him feel confident in his support for me. The room was dark and quiet with the watchful eyes of our midwives. They allowed me to birth my baby my way. I was never asked if I needed pain medication. They respected my request to not have an IV and to have intermittent fetal monitoring and I was allowed to labor in the tub. The experience was joyful and perfect.
When Heidi left the hospital the morning Jonah was born, I remember thinking, wow I am going to miss her. I felt the same way leaving my midwife’s office after my six week follow-up appointment. I didn’t want to say goodbye to these amazing women! I thought, well I better get pregnant again (HA). Instead I decided to either be a doula or an educator. My childbirth educator encouraged me to look into Birth Boot Camp. After doing some research I decided it was a great fit for me.
The cascade of events that brought us to conceiving and down the natural birth route changed my life. Without these women coming into my life, I wouldn’t be where I am today. I knew I needed to be a part of their community. This community of women supporting and loving women. That is why I am now an educator. There is now a part of me that wants to support every couple through their journey into parenthood. I am passing on the love that was once given to me.
Fast forward five months, I am now certified... and pregnant. :)
When people ask if we regret our decision to move to Sioux Falls, I tell them we don’t regret it for a second.
Paige Goldade - A Birth Boot Camp Instructor living and loving in South Dakota. She is a wife and mother of two rambunctious toddlers. She works as a childbirth educator and Board Certified Registered Nurse.